Came accross this absolute gem from Osho today. Reproducing this here for benefit of mankind(womankind as well).
Sargamo: "BELOVED MASTER,
I FEEL SHOCKED WHEN YOU USE THE WORD 'FUCK'.
WHAT TO DO?"
Osho : Sargamo, it is one of the most beautiful words.
The English language should be proud of it.
I don't think any other language has such a beautiful word.
One Tom from California has done some great research on it.
I think he must be the famous Tom of Tom, Dick and Harry fame.
He says: One of the most interesting words in the English language today is the word 'fuck'.
It is one magical word: just by its sound it can describe pain, pleasure, hate and love.
In language it falls into many grammatical categories.
It can be used as a verb, both transitive (John fucked Mary) and intransitive (Mary was fucked by John), and as a noun (Mary is a fine fuck).
It can be used as an adjective (Mary is fucking beautiful).
As you can see there are not many words with the versatility of 'fuck'.
Besides the sexual meaning, there are also the following uses:
Fraud: I got fucked at the used car lot.
Ignorance: Fucked if I know.
Trouble: I guess I am fucked now!
Aggression: Fuck you!
Displeasure: What the fuck is going on here?
Difficulty: I can't understand this fucking job.
Incompetence: He is a fuck-off.
Suspicion: What the fuck are you doing?
Enjoyment: I had a fucking good time.
Request: Get the fuck out of here!
Hostility: I am going to knock your fucking head off!
Greeting: How the fuck are you?
Apathy: Who gives a fuck?
Innovation: Get a bigger fucking hammer.
Surprise: Fuck! You scared the shit out of me!
Anxiety: Today is really fucked. And it is very healthy too.
If every morning you do it as a Transcendental Meditation -- just when you get up, the first thing, repeat the mantra "Fuck you!" five times -- it clears the throat.
That's how I keep my throat clear!
Enough for today.
Really enough for today guys :)
Friday, August 28, 2009
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Conflict: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
Conflict is a dreaded word. Organizations & institutions spend considerable amount of time & other valuable resources to avoid conflict. Conflict is considered a hinderance to growth and is seen as something which is avoidable.
Contrary to this, conflict should be regarded as a normal process in the activity of an organization by which socially valuable differences register themselves for the benefit of all concerned.
What we fail to understand here is that conflict does not mean warfare. It only means a difference of opinion. It is inherent human nature which manifests itself in the form of conflict or to put it mildly, difference of opinion.
Conflicts can be resolved in three ways:
1. Domination: Needless to expound, one party dominates the other and they both reach a static state, but seeds for a further conflict are sowed as within the aggreived party simmers the desire to ignite the conflict at the most opportune moment.
2. Compromise: The most commonly used method of resolution of conflicts. Both parties gain and lose something and reach a mutually agreed settlement. Compromise is widely accepted as a form of conflict resolution, but people rarely want to compromise as it means giving up something.
3. Integration: Two point of views are integrated and neither side needs to give up something. Integration creates something new which is acceptable and beneficial to both the parties.
The Good:
1. All polishing is done by friction(Conflict).
2. Friction between the strings of a violin and bow produces music.
The Bad:
Your boss dominates and you have no option but to be dominated. This is resolution by domination and it is highly unlikely that conflict is settled forever as it is so as long as your current boss continues to be your boss.
The Ugly:
Integration is the best method, Consider this:
Two Men, One Woman.
Both love the same woman.
In this case there can be no integration(Unless of course, Polyandry is a widely accepted social practice), Compromise is highly unlikely(Unlikely to yield favorable outcomes for both the parties). So the only option is Domination, which turns out to be the best possible way of conflict resolution here.
Ciao, Mukul Tyagi
Contrary to this, conflict should be regarded as a normal process in the activity of an organization by which socially valuable differences register themselves for the benefit of all concerned.
What we fail to understand here is that conflict does not mean warfare. It only means a difference of opinion. It is inherent human nature which manifests itself in the form of conflict or to put it mildly, difference of opinion.
Conflicts can be resolved in three ways:
1. Domination: Needless to expound, one party dominates the other and they both reach a static state, but seeds for a further conflict are sowed as within the aggreived party simmers the desire to ignite the conflict at the most opportune moment.
2. Compromise: The most commonly used method of resolution of conflicts. Both parties gain and lose something and reach a mutually agreed settlement. Compromise is widely accepted as a form of conflict resolution, but people rarely want to compromise as it means giving up something.
3. Integration: Two point of views are integrated and neither side needs to give up something. Integration creates something new which is acceptable and beneficial to both the parties.
The Good:
1. All polishing is done by friction(Conflict).
2. Friction between the strings of a violin and bow produces music.
The Bad:
Your boss dominates and you have no option but to be dominated. This is resolution by domination and it is highly unlikely that conflict is settled forever as it is so as long as your current boss continues to be your boss.
The Ugly:
Integration is the best method, Consider this:
Two Men, One Woman.
Both love the same woman.
In this case there can be no integration(Unless of course, Polyandry is a widely accepted social practice), Compromise is highly unlikely(Unlikely to yield favorable outcomes for both the parties). So the only option is Domination, which turns out to be the best possible way of conflict resolution here.
Ciao, Mukul Tyagi
Friday, July 31, 2009
Are we inclusive enough???
Breaking News: Emraan Hashmi denied purchase of a flat in a posh society in Pali Hill in Mumbai.
My Observation: BIG DEAL!!!!!
Actually it is a big deal for those who are away from the stark reality of living in India, but for people who have gone house hunting even once in their lifetime, they know the truth.
You will be turned away for the most frivolous and ridiculous of reasons that one can ever think of. Some of the gems:
1. You are a bachelor.
2. You are a non-vegetarian.
3. You smoke.
4. You drink.
5. You don't work in a PSU/Government department.
6. You are a BOY(For God's sake).
These are just a few of the most ridiculous things you get to hear, not to mention people asking your salary to gauge the depth of financial damage that you can survive.
Now, coming to Emraan Hashmi's case: This is nothing new in Mumbai, and below the cosmopolitan exterior lies the dark underbelly(Not actually slums) of Mumbai, the city of dreams.
Having closely observed the living patterns of various communities in Mumbai, I can safely state that there are umpteen number of societies which are exclusive. Gujrati societies(and there are a large number of them) only rent out or sell to Gujratis. Parsi Baugs, where only Parsis can live. Maharashtrian societies which will invariably be inclined towards fellow Maharashtrians and so on.
The Muslim localities, are largely inhabited by Muslim population. People will come and go and it is business as usual for all, but all communities are exclusive for their brethren. Some people call it "Ghettoisation" of Muslims, some call it their reluctance to move out of their "safe zones", and some a clear lack of willingness in the society to allow intermingling of the various communities. It's easy to maintain the status quo and we are really not the most inclusive and open society.
A society which has prided itself on its "Varna Vyavastha"(Which is actually a flawed system, but worked in its time) within the same religion, would be rather reluctant to embrace people of another religion.
I faced innumerable problems getting a pad in Chennai, my profile was not the most desirable: I was a unmarried, studying in Pune, from North India, did not speak Tamil, and on top of that I am a Boy. I was not discriminated against on the basis of religion, but would certainly have been, had I been a Muslim.
So, what Mr. Hashmi is saying is completely true, but what has happenned should not come as a surprise to any of us. People deny others the smallest of things on the most trivial of exuses. He wanted to buy a HOUSE in a Hindu society being a Muslim. Whatever anybody says, discrimination on the basis of religion(which is in complete contradiction to Indian Constitution) occurs everyday in every part of our country and to act appalled and shocked( Which a certain celebrity on a news channel did) is to be an ostrich.
We turn our backs on fellow citizens everyday in the most heart rending situations, we don't stop even if somebody is dying on the road, we refuse water to strangers fearing the unknown, So this is hardly anything. Mr. Hashmi has the connections and the money to buy house in any locality in Mumbai, and he can mobilise the media frenzy with a click(kiss) of his lips. But spare a thought for those poor souls who have no option, but to be disappointed being unable to break into these invisble barriers.
The devil is within us, the God is within us. The devil always gets the prominence because his cause is tempting and the easier option to choose. Mr. Hashmi will be the toast of the media for another couple of days. Come another breaking news and he will again go back into the filmdom's selective obscurity that he is a part of. Life will go on as usual and people will again go back to their ghettos, both mental and social, and India will be shining again.
So, BIG DEAL that something like this happenned.
Good Luck Mr. Hashmi, you would rather live in a society where you are accepted, than in a place where your presence is resented.
Ciao, Mukul Tyagi
My Observation: BIG DEAL!!!!!
Actually it is a big deal for those who are away from the stark reality of living in India, but for people who have gone house hunting even once in their lifetime, they know the truth.
You will be turned away for the most frivolous and ridiculous of reasons that one can ever think of. Some of the gems:
1. You are a bachelor.
2. You are a non-vegetarian.
3. You smoke.
4. You drink.
5. You don't work in a PSU/Government department.
6. You are a BOY(For God's sake).
These are just a few of the most ridiculous things you get to hear, not to mention people asking your salary to gauge the depth of financial damage that you can survive.
Now, coming to Emraan Hashmi's case: This is nothing new in Mumbai, and below the cosmopolitan exterior lies the dark underbelly(Not actually slums) of Mumbai, the city of dreams.
Having closely observed the living patterns of various communities in Mumbai, I can safely state that there are umpteen number of societies which are exclusive. Gujrati societies(and there are a large number of them) only rent out or sell to Gujratis. Parsi Baugs, where only Parsis can live. Maharashtrian societies which will invariably be inclined towards fellow Maharashtrians and so on.
The Muslim localities, are largely inhabited by Muslim population. People will come and go and it is business as usual for all, but all communities are exclusive for their brethren. Some people call it "Ghettoisation" of Muslims, some call it their reluctance to move out of their "safe zones", and some a clear lack of willingness in the society to allow intermingling of the various communities. It's easy to maintain the status quo and we are really not the most inclusive and open society.
A society which has prided itself on its "Varna Vyavastha"(Which is actually a flawed system, but worked in its time) within the same religion, would be rather reluctant to embrace people of another religion.
I faced innumerable problems getting a pad in Chennai, my profile was not the most desirable: I was a unmarried, studying in Pune, from North India, did not speak Tamil, and on top of that I am a Boy. I was not discriminated against on the basis of religion, but would certainly have been, had I been a Muslim.
So, what Mr. Hashmi is saying is completely true, but what has happenned should not come as a surprise to any of us. People deny others the smallest of things on the most trivial of exuses. He wanted to buy a HOUSE in a Hindu society being a Muslim. Whatever anybody says, discrimination on the basis of religion(which is in complete contradiction to Indian Constitution) occurs everyday in every part of our country and to act appalled and shocked( Which a certain celebrity on a news channel did) is to be an ostrich.
We turn our backs on fellow citizens everyday in the most heart rending situations, we don't stop even if somebody is dying on the road, we refuse water to strangers fearing the unknown, So this is hardly anything. Mr. Hashmi has the connections and the money to buy house in any locality in Mumbai, and he can mobilise the media frenzy with a click(kiss) of his lips. But spare a thought for those poor souls who have no option, but to be disappointed being unable to break into these invisble barriers.
The devil is within us, the God is within us. The devil always gets the prominence because his cause is tempting and the easier option to choose. Mr. Hashmi will be the toast of the media for another couple of days. Come another breaking news and he will again go back into the filmdom's selective obscurity that he is a part of. Life will go on as usual and people will again go back to their ghettos, both mental and social, and India will be shining again.
So, BIG DEAL that something like this happenned.
Good Luck Mr. Hashmi, you would rather live in a society where you are accepted, than in a place where your presence is resented.
Ciao, Mukul Tyagi
Sunday, July 19, 2009
On four wheels, at the foothills of himalayas
I have criss crossed the North Indian state of Himachal Pradesh a couple of times now, often travelling the roads that a normal tourist wouldn't dare to take as they are dangerous.
And I have learnt one thin about the hills: These Hillmen hide the most beautiful landscapes to themselves, therefore they never take a tourist from a road less travelled. I have seen the most beautiful Hills, Valleys, Rivers and Trees in places where tourists never go. You will be hard pressed to find a decent meal in these areas, but there is no dearth of natural beauty. The roads are so narrow that one mistake and you can be 200 feet down the road in a few quick milliseconds, and no airbag can save you. The Laden trucks zip past you and leave you terrified, one touch here and you go flying down there.
And yeah the best part is.............I get paid to go where people pay to go:)). Yes, isn't it the most amazing thing. Well, if you ask me it is. Its true that I start my journey at hours that a normal tourist would not. At unearthly hours when hotel staff wouldnt serve you more than the ubiquitous "Butter Toast", and you relish them sitting in your car like it was Foie-gras served with bordeaux wine. But yes that is the time when you see the sun coming up and painting the hills with its rays in myraid colors which even Hussain would pay millions to get his hands on.
My suggestions to people looking to get away from the hustle bustle of city life and spending a rejuvenating vacation at any hill station: Don't Go to that hill station, ask around, go to a place near that hill station. I bet you will find that much more beautiful, relaxing and yeah not to forget the lack of harrassment at the hands of touts and tour guides. Take Shimla for example: Its called the queen of hills not for nothing with ever changing weather and verdant vistas all around. But yeah I am very sure that 90% of the people who visit Shimla never get to visit what they really wanted to. They follow the trodden path and come back with plastic smiles, saying they loved it, but deep inside, they know that the vacation was nothing more than an extension of the rat race they wanted to get away from. The never ending queues for one thing or the other, sky rocketing prices of everything, when water isn't free and where you dont want to relish the "Masala Chai" sitting in your balcony because it costs a bomb(The last one isnt true for everyone, but a rather overwhelming majority).
I know its easier said than done to find a place off the beaten track, something not mentioned in a travelogue, but trust me, the less mentioned a place is in a travel guide, less commercialised it will be and thus more beautiful. Search through "Lonely Planet" guides, ask the locals and it will be fun. Look for a place so goddammed that the Telecom giants didnt deem fit to place a tower there. Where the data card in your laptop wouldn't work( The laptop isnt supposed to be there in the first place, but knowing you, I know you will carry it along).
So pack your bags, but dont pack your home in them. Just carry along the essentials that you will need for the trip. Even if you are alone(Which is true in my case) you will find the drive lifting your spirits, invigorating your senses and rejuvenating your self to take on the Rat Race once again( I just love this fucking phrase, which is fucking everybody all over).
All the best for the vacation you will never have( I am wicked:)).
I know this one took a long time coming, but I promise my next post will be soon(Anyways not many people read this)
And I have learnt one thin about the hills: These Hillmen hide the most beautiful landscapes to themselves, therefore they never take a tourist from a road less travelled. I have seen the most beautiful Hills, Valleys, Rivers and Trees in places where tourists never go. You will be hard pressed to find a decent meal in these areas, but there is no dearth of natural beauty. The roads are so narrow that one mistake and you can be 200 feet down the road in a few quick milliseconds, and no airbag can save you. The Laden trucks zip past you and leave you terrified, one touch here and you go flying down there.
And yeah the best part is.............I get paid to go where people pay to go:)). Yes, isn't it the most amazing thing. Well, if you ask me it is. Its true that I start my journey at hours that a normal tourist would not. At unearthly hours when hotel staff wouldnt serve you more than the ubiquitous "Butter Toast", and you relish them sitting in your car like it was Foie-gras served with bordeaux wine. But yes that is the time when you see the sun coming up and painting the hills with its rays in myraid colors which even Hussain would pay millions to get his hands on.
My suggestions to people looking to get away from the hustle bustle of city life and spending a rejuvenating vacation at any hill station: Don't Go to that hill station, ask around, go to a place near that hill station. I bet you will find that much more beautiful, relaxing and yeah not to forget the lack of harrassment at the hands of touts and tour guides. Take Shimla for example: Its called the queen of hills not for nothing with ever changing weather and verdant vistas all around. But yeah I am very sure that 90% of the people who visit Shimla never get to visit what they really wanted to. They follow the trodden path and come back with plastic smiles, saying they loved it, but deep inside, they know that the vacation was nothing more than an extension of the rat race they wanted to get away from. The never ending queues for one thing or the other, sky rocketing prices of everything, when water isn't free and where you dont want to relish the "Masala Chai" sitting in your balcony because it costs a bomb(The last one isnt true for everyone, but a rather overwhelming majority).
I know its easier said than done to find a place off the beaten track, something not mentioned in a travelogue, but trust me, the less mentioned a place is in a travel guide, less commercialised it will be and thus more beautiful. Search through "Lonely Planet" guides, ask the locals and it will be fun. Look for a place so goddammed that the Telecom giants didnt deem fit to place a tower there. Where the data card in your laptop wouldn't work( The laptop isnt supposed to be there in the first place, but knowing you, I know you will carry it along).
So pack your bags, but dont pack your home in them. Just carry along the essentials that you will need for the trip. Even if you are alone(Which is true in my case) you will find the drive lifting your spirits, invigorating your senses and rejuvenating your self to take on the Rat Race once again( I just love this fucking phrase, which is fucking everybody all over).
All the best for the vacation you will never have( I am wicked:)).
I know this one took a long time coming, but I promise my next post will be soon(Anyways not many people read this)
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